Dr. Debra Laino

Sex Therapy and Life Coaching in Delaware

Fifty Shades of Grey

While it took me a long time to make the purchase of a book that has been in my ear by everyone I know for the last several months, I finally made the plunge this past weekend.  I am not an avid leisure reader by any sense of the word as I am infiltrated with research on sexuality and psychology-essentially my reading time is work time.  However, I must say that I couldn’t put this book down on the day of the purchase.

While reading the first 100 pages or so I realized I escaped into the world of the main character Anastasia Steele and caught myself fantasizing about Christian Grey.  It was my pleasure this past weekend as I indulged hours in deep reading and deep thought about power, control and sex appeal.  Why is it that women are attracted to men with power?  I know the sociocultural explanation but not sure if I agree thoroughly.  Why is it that men are often attracted to women who are less powerful?  Does it make for some sort of effective psychological fit?  I then started to question how attractive are powerful women to men (or other women whatever one is interested in)?  Did women get the short end of the stick in our culture?

While Fifty Shades of Grey is a work of fiction the reality of the concepts aren’t that far fetched if you know anything about the world of BDSM.  With that being said, after doing some research on the book I learned that some libraries would not order the book because of its sexual content.  Yet, they will house some of the most violent books that ever existed such as American Psycho by Bret Easton Ellis.

While sexual expression is a central foundation in Fifty Shades of Grey, it is simply that- “one’s sexual expression.”  It is also interesting how this book has sold to the masses of women between the ages of 30 and 45- and mothers to boot.  That should scream volumes about women’s sexuality yet still not recognized as a viable desire for many women.

Just some thoughts as I am thinking my way through the delight of sexuality in Fifty Shades of yummy Christian Grey…



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  1. Chrissy on said:

    Well said!!

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